As we approach the end of the year, roaring towards 2020, people across the globe begin to think about New Year’s resolutions. They develop goals ranging from losing weight, eating healthier, finding a new job, starting a business, and to gaining some new prized, material possession. Many believe that achieving these goals will help them to feel better about themselves generally and their lives in the years to come.
I once held the same belief and would diligently identify a list of goals. Curious enough, my personal list was very similar each year unveiling my unexplainable desires, yearnings, and beliefs that happiness was indeed based upon perfection and the amount of external trophies and accomplishments, outside of myself, that I could acquire. Was I ever any closer to Nirvana, Utopia, the promised land? Not really. It was always short lived with temporary victories. The years also came with lots of trials, losses, disappointments, failures, and regrets. I didn’t plan on the mistakes I would make along the way either.
So, what are my goals for 2020? Nothing. I simply want to maintain a state of gratitude and happiness which means nothing outside of being a better human – – and perhaps better version of my authentic self. For anyone who might not understand what I mean by authenticity, this means that inspiration (being myself) is the best form of flattery – – not imitation (someone else). I am also grateful for everyone and everything in my life right now. This does not mean that I do not have challenges, trials, and general goals. It is just that I have learned to be content with whatever state of existence is present in my life. Happiness is a state of being not based on people, places, things, or experiences being, doing, or saying exactly what we envision. For me, it comes from completely knowing, loving, accepting, forgiving, and respecting who and what I am – – strengths, flaws and all. Happiness is being the best human that I can be, evolving and growing from each life experience.
So, thank you to everyone along my path. To my soul tribe, you support, inspire, encourage, and challenge me to be my personal best. Thank you for reminding me to always stand in integrity and truth and for challenging me directly to my face with the purest intent for my greatest good. We have friendship accountability which is invaluable. You honored the integrity of our social contract. You are irreplaceable!
To all others, I wish you blessings and happiness on your journey. I would not be who I am today without your contributions. “Bless your heart,” as Southerners are known to say.
With gratitude, I am ending this year with peace of mind, body, and spirit. I am loving and loved by those who really know me. So my only goal for 2020 is that everyone and everything continues to bless me by divine right and in divine order. Whether you come bearing positive or negative vibes, energy, and intent, I will use your lessons to continue evolving, improving, and growing into a better human. I am on the edge of happiness – – peaceful bliss in fact. In my 3ACT, I just want more happy days than not. And so it is as 2020 emerges … from the ruins …and shadows.