Nobody’s Business

Every human relationship has bumps and challenges along the way no matter how in sync people may be. From the outside, people can make assumptions or judgements based upon their own observations, experiences, or even based upon what you may choose to share. No one really knows what makes a relationship “click” especially a romantic partnership because it depends on the needs of each person. Whatever floats your boat may not float mine. People may have differences in terms of what is most important to them. Whatever makes you feel satisfied, secure and loved could be the compete opposite for someone else. Although everyone may think they know what is going on, it is really no body’s business to judge even though we all sometimes do including me. Should I tell you just how many times I’ve been judge, jury and executioner only to receive unexpected information or a sign proving that appearances can be deceiving? 

“There were times that I wanted to push Barack out of the window. And I say that because it’s like, you’ve got to know the feelings will be intense. But that doesn’t mean you quit.”

The Michelle Obama Podcast – September 7, 2020

Recently, former first lady Michelle Obama (friend in my head also known as MO), shared some unexpected info about our former president and her husband, #44 aka Barack Obama, during an interview with Conan O’Brien. MO unveiled some interesting details about her marriage on her podcast discussing the trials and tribulations of real, authentic marriages, relationships and love. Wow! Her candor never ceases to amaze and impress me. MO is hard&black y’all  – – for real. As a former resident of the southside of Chi-town, I know for a fact she would be a tribe member of 3actunveiled.com. Authentic. Vulnerable. TrUthful. Loving. No nonsense. I know MO in spirit. With one glance, she and I could communicate a lot between us (diagnose a situation and develop an initial plan of action within seconds – – not always high vibrational because we’re still human but .… LOL).

So, how does this connect to this blog post? Something has been said as it relates to our collective awakening about authentic relationship dynamics and expectations in general. If America’s former first family and couple can experience love challenges, we all know it can and does happen to each of us. Even actress Jada Pinkett-Smith has recently shed some explosive inside information about her marriage to movie star actor Will Smith on her “Red Table Talk” podcast. We all have to navigate these loving waters – – eventually – – trying to find the highest vibrational path towards our grandest destiny – – not just for ourselves but for the ones we claim to love. No outsider is in a position to make a decision – – whether to stay or go – – in someone’s partnership. With the universe’s guidance, however, the outcome will be in the the best interest of all parties involved. The proverbial 80/20 rule resonates for me which is the idea that if 80% of your partnership is good/solid, it just might be worth the effort. Yet, there is always that 20% leaving one to continually question the partnership or to make the decision to accept the short comings with a grain of salt. If the percentages are the opposite (80% unstable/bad, 20% good/solid), one may have some serious “splainin” to do and choices to consider – – or not. No matter what happens, it still remains no body’s business with the final outcome reflecting the loving energy in your heart space (what is most important to you, what you are willing to accept and how they make you feel).