Why is it so hard for some of US to simply apologize (I’m s-o-r-r-ry) when we’ve hurt someone whether intentionally or innocently? False accusations. Disrespect. Inconsiderate. Betrayals. Backstabbing. Slander. Abuse.Arguments. Ghosting. Greedy. Sabotage. Lying. ShadyAF. All of these behaviors represent just a few of our human proclivities that could require one to just say – – I’m s-o-r-r-y. It is actually a powerful act to reflect and admit to one’s self and another that we’re not perfect and to take responsibility for our imperfect actions, words or deeds that hurt or injured another.
Today, I simply wish to acknowledge my past sins, human frailties and mistakes. It would be a sign of mental illness, illusion or cowardice to pretend one is without faults. I am a lot of things (both flaws and strengths) but a coward is not one of them. So let me say loudly and publicly I’m s-o-r-r-y to all those who have been directly hurt by my past actions or words. I would usually say I’m s-o-r-r-r-y personally to individuals I’ve hurt immediately or soon thereafter but I have also missed opportunities when either myself or the impacted individuals were not receptive or accessible for me to say it directly. I have also refrained from doing so when I didn’t feel that way (usually as result of not being aware or guilty of the alleged charges). There have even been times when my trUth was stated honestly (too hard&black no chaser) or a righteous indignation response was warranted due to a perceived infraction or insult committed against my WOMANHOOD. Perhaps I could have “responded” not “reacted” differently but when you know better you sometimes do better.
None of what I’ve stated above negates the necessity to say I’m s-o-r-r-y when one’s conscious (if you have one) tells you to do so. Just like forgiveness, however, saying I’m s-o-r-r-y does not mean full reconciliation but it does allow for the possibility for healing within a healthy relationship whether platonic or romanic. At a minimum, it will allow YOU to move forward in life with less guilt, shame or baggage after making a mistake. Your karmic debt, however, will still have to be paid – – eventually. Yet, the life lessons would have been learned by ALL involved. So how does one start this important conversation? Perhaps it begins with a simple – – Hello… How are you … I’m s-o-r-r-y….
Looks like some are starting to publicly confess the trUth.
Bravo for those having the courage to say I’m s-o-r-r-y.