The Apology

Why is it so hard for some of US to simply apologize (I’m s-o-r-r-ry) when we’ve hurt someone whether intentionally or innocently? False accusations. Disrespect. Inconsiderate. Betrayals. Backstabbing. Slander. Abuse. Arguments. Ghosting. Greedy. Sabotage. Lying. Shady AF. All of these behaviors represent just a few of our human proclivities that could require one to just say  – – I’m s-o-r-r-y. It is actually a powerful act to reflect and admit to one’s self and another that we’re not perfect and to take responsibility for our imperfect actions, words or deeds that hurt or injured another.

Being able to admit one’s mistakes is a trait 
ALL of US should learn beginning in childhood. 
Too often, adults refuse to accept responsibility 
for hurting or disrespecting another due to pride or ego.  

Today, I simply wish to acknowledge my past sins, human frailties and mistakes. It would be a sign of mental illness, illusion or cowardice to pretend one is without faults. I am a lot of things (both flaws and strengths) but a coward is not one of them. So let me say loudly and publicly I’m s-o-r-r-y to all those who have been directly hurt by my past actions or words. I would usually say I’m s-o-r-r-r-y personally to individuals I’ve hurt immediately or soon thereafter but I have also missed opportunities when either myself or the impacted individuals were not receptive or accessible for me to say it directly. I have also refrained from doing so when I didn’t feel that way (usually as result of not being aware or guilty of the alleged charges). There have even been times when my trUth was stated honestly (too hard&black no chaser) or a righteous indignation response was warranted due to a perceived infraction or insult committed against my WOMANHOOD. Perhaps I could have “responded” not “reacted” differently but when you know better you sometimes do better.

Remember the POWER of HO’OPONOPONO

None of what I’ve stated above negates the necessity to say I’m s-o-r-r-y when one’s conscious (if you have one) tells you to do so. Just like forgiveness, however, saying I’m s-o-r-r-y does not mean full reconciliation but it does allow for the possibility for healing within a healthy relationship whether platonic or romanic. At a minimum, it will allow YOU to move forward in life with less guilt, shame or baggage after making a mistake. Your karmic debt, however, will still have to be paid  – – eventually. Yet, the life lessons would have been learned by ALL involved. So how does one start this important conversation? Perhaps it begins with a simple – – Hello… How are you … I’m s-o-r-r-y….

Adele, girl you are an excellent teacher, writer and singer!!

Okay now listen … stop calling and hanging up. LOL I already forgave you a long time ago .. for real but,
WE are still done unless the most high says otherwise. Wish you well…

Namaste to YOU!!!

Looks like some are starting to publicly confess the trUth.

Bravo for those having the courage to say I’m s-o-r-r-y.

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Update 4-2-22

American film director, producer and screen writer Lee Daniels publicly apologized to actress and stand up comedian Mo’Nique during her “Mo’Nique and Friends: April Fools Day with The Queen of Comedy” event at the St. George Theatre on Staten Island, NY. 

“I am so s-o-r-r-y for hurting you in any way that I did,” said Daniels. Mo’Niqueappeared to get emotional and put her hand to her heart. This reconciliation comes after a long feud that stemmed from the comedian’s refusal to promote their 2009 movie “Precious.” Prior to this a-p-o-l-o-g-y, Mo’Nique publicly talked about the feud and made allegations that Daniels and others had mischaracterized her actions which resulted in her being  “black balled” for standing up for herself and telling her trUth. In Daniel’s  a-p-o-l-o-g-y, he also referenced the movie by stating that Mo’Niquewas my best friend — my best friend. Y’all think that Precious was just … That was God working, through both of us.”

Update 3-29-22

Actor Will Smith issues a-p-o-l-o-g-y to comedian Chris Rock for slapping the
incident at Sunday’s Academy Awards Oscars Ceremony. 

In a post on Instagram on Monday afternoon, Smith called his behavior “unacceptable and
inexcusable.” He further stated that ”jokes at my expense are a part of the job, but a joke
about Jada’s medical condition was too much for me to bear and I reacted emotionally.
I would like to publicly a-p-o-l-o-g-i-z-e to you, Chris. I was out of line and I was wrong. I am
embarrassed and my actions were not indicative of the man I want to be. There is no place
for violence in a world of love and kindness.” Smith added in his post that, “Violence
in all forms is poisonous and destructive.”

He also included in his note an a-p-o-l-o-g-y to “the Academy, the producers of the show, all
the attendees and everyone watching around the world,” as well as the family of tennis
stars Venus and Serena Williams and those involved with the film for which he won his
best actor award on Sunday. “I deeply regret that my behavior has stained what has
been an otherwise gorgeous journey for all of us,” he wrote. “I am a work in progress.”

Update 12-26-21

Meghan Markle, Duchess of Sussex, Receives Public
A-p-o-l-o-g-y After Lawsuit Victory

Meghan Markle Dhas received a public a-p-o-l-o-g-y from a British tabloid after a court battle with the publishers of the Mail on Sunday.The publication printed a front-page mea culpa to the Duchess of Sussex, 40, as required by multiple rulings that the Mail on Sunday and the MailOnlin website breached Markle’s privacy in February 2019 by printing elements of a five-page letter she wrote to her father shortly after her royal wedding to Prince Harry in May 2018.

In a statement on December 2, Meghan said, “This is a victory not just for me, but for anyone who has ever felt scared to stand up for what’s right.”

She noted, “While this win is precedent setting, what matters most is that we are
now collectively brave enough to reshape a tabloid industry that conditions
people to be cruel, and profits from the lies and pain that they create.”

Meghan continued, “From day one, I have treated this lawsuit as an important measure of right versus wrong. The defendant has treated it as a game with no rules. The longer they dragged it out, the more they could twist facts and manipulate the public (even during the appeal itself), making a straightforward case extraordinarily convoluted in order to generate more headlines and sell more newspapers — a model that rewards chaos above truth. In the nearly three years since this began, I have been patient in the face of deception, intimidation, and calculated attacks.”

Update: 12-9-21

Erica Mena, “Love & Hip Hop: New York” star made a bold mature move. She gave a woman a public a-p-o-l-o-g-y after accusing her of wearing her stolen possessions.

“Last May, after our home was burglarized and some of my property stolen, I was informed by a number of sources that an individual named Christy Mahone had been seen in possession of my stolen property,” Erica wrote on her Instagram page. “Under circumstances that suggested she knew it was stolen, and I posted statements to that effect on my Instagram account.” Ms. Mena went on to say that she had “since learned that the information I received about Ms. Mahone was not accurate.” She continued, “So I now wish to take this opportunity to retract my earlier assertions concerning Ms. Mahone. To be clear, I no longer have any reason to believe that Christy Mahone was ever in possession of property she knew to be stolen from me, or that she had anything at all to do, directly or indirectly, with the robbery of our home. I a-p-o-l-o-g-i-z-e to Ms. Mahone.”

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