Social distancing in the age of the coronavirus pandemic (COVID-19) can be more than simply providing distance and limiting contact with others. It can also transcend physical contact to include emotional and mental distance. More than ever, we all should evaluate ourselves and the energy we receive and put out into the world. The need to practice aggressive self care (mental, emotional and physical wellness), especially during these uncertain times, is paramount.
It is in this context that my partner and I had “the talk”. We gave our views on current events and the implications for us, our families, community and the world. We are very different but we also share some core personality traits and values. Because of our history and self understanding, we identified projects for us to tackle (needing attention) or that we enjoy doing (separately and together) and prepared for this eventuality. We discussed specific health plans, and decided on how best to stay healthy in mind, body and soul. We discussed our wishes if one of us experienced challenges or an unexpected demise. This may all sound harsh but we strive for relational balance (trying to be equally matched in our support, directness and pragmatism) which has provided a stable partnership foundation. We give personal space and know each other’s boundaries including strengths and weaknesses. This doesn’t sound like a typical hollywood movie version of relationships, right?
“The individual has always had to struggle to keep from being overwhelmed by the tribe. If you try it, you will be lonely often, and sometimes frightened. But no price is too high to pay for the privilege of owning yourself.”Friedrich Nietzsche
So on this day, I am grateful and hopeful that each of you will be safe and practice self care incorporating your “social distancing plans” realizing that we still need to help others beyond our walls if duty calls us to ACT. It is not just important for your safety but indicates your personal commitment to everyone else’s well being. Our individual life experiences have led us to this moment and will ultimately reveal who we really are separate from our partnerships, tribe or country of origin. What will you do with this new world reality?
As individuals, we are still connected and interdependent as humans – creating and manifesting our world experiences. Events are far from perfect but there remains some magical moments too. Whether one is operating within the frequency of high or low vibrational energy, boundaries are still needed within relationships, even before COVID-19. It is never too late to re-adjust your life program. What about our world program? It just takes open communication (the talk), a plan (balanced, accountable and strategic) and the willingness to take appropriate action which can also include non-action (social distancing).
“Don’t confuse my boundaries with a grudge. There are no hard feelings, but stay away from me.“IG: @Derrick Jaxn
Other perspectives for consideration ….